Start With Why by Simon Sinek

Posted by on Dec 21, 2012 in Henry’s Reading List, Personal Freedom | 1 comment

Start With Why by Simon Sinek

“The goal of business should not be to do business with anyone who wants what you have. It should be to focus on the people who believe what you believe.”

This book changed my life. Before reading it I would tell business prospects and clients what we could do for them and maybe how we were going to get the job done. In coaching clients and team members, I would tell them what they needed to do and how to do it. For some reason, they seldom seemed motivated to action. I assumed that the decisions they made were rational and based in language. In “Start With Why” Simon Sinek says that “The limbic brain is responsible for all or our feelings, such as trust and loyalty. It is also responsible for all of our decision making, but it has no capacity for language.”

So, as human beings, all of our decisions are made emotionally and start with why. Instead of starting with why, I was always sharing what and how, and leaving the why unsaid. The more I talked, the more uninspired people became, the less effective I became as a leader, unable to motivate others to action. I wondered what was missing, why I was unable to inspire people to action.

I had a tendency to hide my why because I was emotional about it and had difficulty putting it into words. I spent so much time working with people that didn’t believe what I believed that I became beaten down, almost defeated. The stress affected me mentally, physically and spiritually. Sometimes I felt like a misfit. Simon Sinek helped me see that some people believe what I believe and some people don’t. I learned that I wasn’t a misfit – I was just trying to work with clients and team members who weren’t a good fit.

“All great leaders have charisma because all great leaders have clarity of WHY; an undying belief in a purpose or cause bigger than themselves.”

Signs that these people did not believe what I believed were a mutual lack of trust and only half-hearted displays of loyalty. We all sensed that there wasn’t a fit and that our relationships were mostly transactional in nature. After reading this book I started communicating my why. Miraculously, those that didn’t believe what I believed melted out of my life very quickly. The sensation was that of a flood, but the grand departure created space for me to work with those who believe what I believe. The freedom is exhilarating!Simon Sinek start with why

“There are only two ways to influence human behavior: you can manipulate it or you can inspire it.”

As a business coach and advisor, I encourage my clients to get to the root of the WHY so that you too can have that freedom – the freedom to choose the work you love, the clients and customers you enjoy, and the involvement you’ll have (or not have).  And it frees you up for the rest of life.

“Passion comes from feeling like you are a part of something you believe in, something bigger than yourself.”

I’d encourage you to watch this video of Simon himself explaining these concepts – he does it well, and it’s well worth the 18 minutes.  (Those minutes could change your life – and your business.)

Or drop me a note with your comments or thoughts.

 

 

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  1. This is one of my favourite books as well! Gets right to the heart of the companies who do the ‘why’ well – without asking all of us to be Apple or Walmart or a large corporate. Just know why you’re in business and who wants to do business with you.

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